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worse the husband is, the more need there is for the wife co carry her self wich such gentlenelle and sweetnes cowards him, as may be most like to win him ; for so che Apostle advises, I Pet 3.1. Likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, that if any obey not the Word, they alfo may without the Word be won by the conversati? on of the wives:
The discreet kind& loving behaviour of the wife towards her hresband (though a bad man) may be a great means toreclaim bim; whereas the ill fruits of the wives unquietnes are very notorious, How. manyare there that to avoid the noise of a froward wife, have fallen to company keeping, and by that to drunkennelle, poverij, and a multicude of mischiefs. Let all wives therefore be careful not to administer such a temptation.
2. It must be in the Lord; 1. c. in all lawful commands: It must not extend to any thing that is against God. For otherwise, 't is here, as in che case of oiber Superiours : God must be obeyed rather than man. If che Husband command a thing though not unlawful, yet very inconvenient and imprudent, let clie Wife calmly and mildy shew him the inconveniencies thereof, and perswade him to the contrary; buc if the cannot win him by fair intreaties, let her not finally refuse to obey, nothing bae the inlawfulnelle of the cominand, be. ing a sufficient warrant for that.
And turcler, the must manifest her obedience in two things.
1. In being willing to be admonished of her husband in case of any failing (not retuning a snap. pish answer again) but readily reforming what is am ffe.
2. In being willing to be advised by him: Nor but that she may advise him in some cases, and on some occasions. For what a servant may de, much more may a wife do (as we find, 2 King. 5.3. 1 Sam. 16 15, 16.) but this must be dont with wisdom and discretion. The admonition mul be given seasonably, not as Phyfick in a fit, it must be done with that fofineffe and mildnes, that it may appear, 'ris love, and not anger that makes her to speak.
4. And lastly, She is to be a meet helper te him, both in spiritual and temporal concern
1. In the mannaging of domestical affairs, the house being her proper pheat, Tic.2.5. The Apostle faies, Wives should be keepers at home: Not daughters of Dinah, but of Sarah. They must have a vigilant and watchful eye over the affairs of the Family. They must guide the
house, as 'cis, 1 Tim 5.14. Every wise woman · Solomon saies, Prov.14 1. buildeth her house;
but the foolish placketh it down with her hands. Prov.31.27. She looketh wel to the waies of her houshold, and eatech not the bread of Idleneffe. 2. she must bear a part in all the crosses and
troubles that the Providence of God Ihåll cast upon them.
3. She must be a chearer and comforter of him in healib and sicknesle. What shall we think chen of those women, who in stead of being a comfort,are a continual disquiet to their husbands ? 'Like Eve, in stead of being helpers, prove tempters, and binderers and dran: ers off from God and Godlinesse.Certainly,there is no outward condition in this world, fo comfortable, as the married, when things are carried becween man and wife, with pietie, wisdom, and love; and none more miserable,
where things are otherwise. Gen.2.18. And the Lord God said, it is not good
that the man Thould be alone, I will make him an
help meet for him. | V.zi. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to
fall upon Adam, and he siept, and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in stead
thereof. • V.22. And the rib, which the Lord God had tas
made he a woman, & brought ber unto the man. V.23. And Adams said, this is now bone of my
bones, and flesh of my fejh, she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man. V.24. Therefore shall a man leave his Father and his mother, and sball cleave unto his wife,
ken from man,
and then shall be one flesh. Prov. 5. 18. Rejoyce with the wife of thy
youth. V. 19: Let her be as the loving Hind, and
pleasant Roe ; let her breasts satisfie thee at all times, and be thou ravished slwales with her
love. Eph.5.25. Husbands, love your wives, even-
Christ also loved the Church, and gave himself
for it, V.28, So ought men to love their wives as their
own bodies, he that loveth his wife, loveth him felf. V.29. Før 80 mas ever get bated bis own fleb,
but pourisheth and cherishesh it, even as the Lord ! the church. V.31. For this cause shall a man leave his Father and Mother, and shall be joyned unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. V.33. Nevertheleffe' let every one of you in por ticular fo love his wife, even as himself, ani
the wife see that she reverence her husband. Col.3.19. Husbands, love your' wives, and be
not bitter against them. 1 Pet.3.7. Likewise ge husbands, dwell with the
according to knowledge, giving honour unto th, wife as unto the weaker vesel, and as beir beirs together of the Grace of life, i hat ges
prayers be net bindred. Eph.5.22. Hives, submit your felves ante
own husbands, as unto the Lord. V.23. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church, and
he is the Saviour of the body. V.24. Therefore, as the Church is subject unto Christ, fo let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. V.33. Nevertheles ,let every one of you in parti. calar to love his wife even as himfelf, the
wife see that fue reverence her husband. Col. 3.18. Wives, fubmit your selves anto your
own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. i Pec.3.1. Likewise ye wives, be in fobjection to
your own husbands, that if any obey not the Word, they also may without the word be won
by the conversation of the wives, V.2. While they behold. your chaft conversation,
coupled with fear. V.3. Whofe adorning, let it not be that outward
adorning, of plating the hair, and of wearing of Gold, or of putting ox of apparel. V.4. But let it be she hidden man of the heart,
in that which is not corruptible, even the Ornament of a meek and quiet Spirit, which is in tbe light of God, of great price. V.5. For after this manner in the old time, the holy women also who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own
husbands. V.6. Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling