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roughnesse, and ach tyrannical carriage is utterly unallowable on the Husbands part cowards his Wife.

4; 'Tis pure. Not for base and finister ends: He does not love himself because he is a healthy man, a handsom man,

man, arich man; ly himself (because 'lis himself) that he loves. Such oughe a mans love to his wife to be ; noc only because she is fair, or rich, or young;

buc because she is his wife. "A man may look abroad in the world, and see otbers healtbier, handformer, richer, wittier than himself; yet (I hope) he does not thereupon fall in love with ihem, and right and neglect himself : So a man is to love his wife purely for this reason, because she is his wife. Though he is not bound to think her the best accomplished woman in the world, yec he is to love her, like her, delight in her more than

Any woman in the world. So much for the first Duty che man owes to his Wife, Love, and the degree of ir.

II. The next is instruction. The Husband is to inftruct the wife in the chings that concern her everlasting welfare, if she be ignorant of them.

Thus Paul bids the wives learn of their husbands at home, 1 Cor.14.35. Which supposes the Husband is to teach her. This shou'd make men careful to gec knowledge themselves, that so they may perform this duly they owe to others. III. Maintenance. Heis to maintain her, pro

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vide for her, and allow her things convenient and fit according to his estate, and to let her para take with him in those ontward good things wherewith God hach blessed him : And as he is not by niggardize, to deny her what is fit for her, so neither muft he by his unthrifiinelle wast his goods, and to make himself unable to support her ; if Gud take him away before her, he is to provide for her comfortable subsistence (according to his ability) and not to be at her when he is dead ( as one phrases ic) by leaving her an infufficient and too short an allowance.

I come now to speak of the Duties of the wife.

The Wife owes to her Husband,

1. Subjection, Eph.5.22. Wives submit yoar selves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. Col 3.18. Wives submit your selves unto your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord. 1 Pet.3.1. Likewise ye wives be in subjection to your own husbands, &c. V.5.— Being in subjection to their own busbands.

Besides chese Scripture-Commands chere are several reasons for it. 1. From the Creation. 1. The man was first created, 1 Tim.2.13.

1 Adam was first formed, then Eve.

2. The woman was made of the mar, and not the man of the woman, 1 Cor.11.8.For the man is not of the woman, but the woman of the


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of the Duties of, 3. The woman was made for the man, not the man for the woman, Gen. 2.18. And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

4. Nature it self proclaims it in respect of the sex ; the female being inferiour to the male. Man is the image and Glory of God, and

the woman is the Glory of the man, i Cor. 2. From the Transgression. For the woman though the latter in Creation, yet was the former in transgreffion, Gen.3.6. And when the soman saw that the tree was good for food, and tbat it was pleasant to the eies, and a tree to be defired, to make one wise, the cook of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her, and he did eat, v.12. And the man said, the woman whom thou gaveft to be with me, the gave me of the tree, and I did eat, 1 Tim.2.14. Adam was not deceived (i. e. first, and by Sacan) but the woman being deceived, was in the transgreffion : not only fonning her self, but drawing her husband inco transgression also.

3. From the titles of head and guide given to the husband in the Scriptures, which declare bim to be the Superiour, 1 Cor. 11.3.--The head of the woman is the man, - Eph. 5.23. For the Husband is the head of the Wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church Prov.2.17. Which forsaket h

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the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the Covenant of her God.

II. Reverence. Eph. 5:33. Let the wife free that lhe reverence her husband. Reverence is a mixture of love and fear.

1. The wife muft intirely love her husband, Tic.3.4. And defire to do him good and not hurt

all the daies of her life, Prov. 31.12. Love muft ( sweeten her whole behaviour towards him. And

this love must proceed from a due eftimation of him, as her Head and Guide. Fudgment 'tis the sourse and spring of affe&tion. What the mind esteems not, the heart affects not. That which we highly prize, we dearly value. And if the wife truly esteem her husband, her carriage and behaviour towards him will be with all facetness, amiableneste, and dwe respect and regard.

2. She ought to fear (not with a fervile, flao vish, but a liberal, free, ingenuous fear; like

that true Converts bear to God, springing from a love, and joyn'd with love) least fhe give him

any just occasion of displeasure and discontent, i 1 Cor.7.34. The unmarried woman careth for . the things of the Lord, that she may be holy, both

in body, and in Spirit ; but fhe that is married, - Careth for the world, homo fhe may please her huse bani.

III. obedience, 1 Cor. 14. 34. The Apostle te's us, women are commanded to be under obedi. ence, as alfo faith the Lam. What Law ? Why,



Gen.3.16. Thy desire shall be tothy husband, and he shall rule over thee. Also, Tir. 2. 5. To be discreet, chast, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God be not blafphemed. And in 1 Pet. 3.6. Sarah is pro. pounded as their pattern, Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, &c. what kind of obedience is it the wife is to render co the Husband? The Apostle cels us, Col.3.18. Wives submit your selves to your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Which hints to us these two things,

in It must be done in obedience to God; to the Commandment and che Ordinance of God. Ic must be a religious, conscientious submission. A Heathen woman may do all the outward duties of a good wife, for her credit sake, or peace a home, or from principles of natural honesty. But a Christian woman besides these mocives, should do ic out of conscience to Gods Command, out of a desire to please God, and to approve her heart 10 him, as unto the Lord, as the Apostle (peaks, Eph.5.22. Having a respekt to che presepe and enjoynment of Christ. This may take away that common objection of some women, if my busband do not his duty to me,Why should I do mine to him? His faultiresse and negleet of his duty, will roc excuse chý nox. performance of thine. For thou orest this duty noc only and principally co him, buc co the Lord ( who requires ic of thee) whe. ther thy husband de his or no. And further, the


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