Boundaries in Dating: Making Dating Work

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Zondervan, 2000 - Family & Relationships - 280 pages

Boundaries in Dating offers illuminating insights for romance that can help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control as you pursue healthy dating limits that can lead to a happy marriage.

Dating can be fun, but it's not easy. Meeting people is just the first step. Once you've met someone, then what? Should you move on, pursue a simple friendship, or more? How do you set smart limits on your physical relationship? How much do you get involved financially? And how do you know if you've found your future spouse?

In Boundaries in Dating, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, answer all of these questions and more. Helping you bridge the pitfalls of dating, Drs. Cloud and Townsend share their practical advice for adding healthy boundaries to your dating life.

Boundaries in Dating unfolds a wise, biblical path to developing self-control, freedom, and intimacy. Let Drs. Cloud and Townsend help you get to know yourself, solve problems, and enjoy the journey of dating and finding your life partner.

Full of insightful, real-life examples, this much-needed book will give you the tools you need to:

  • Recognize and choose quality over perfection in a dating partner
  • Prioritize friendship within your relationship
  • Preserve friendships by separating between platonic relationships and romantic interest
  • Move past denial to handle real relational problems in a realistic and hopeful way
  • Enjoy this season of life

Don't forget to check out the Boundaries collection of books and workbooks dedicated to key areas of your life, including dating, marriage, parenting kids, raising teenagers, and leadership.

 

Contents

Acknowledgments
9
Why Dating?
11
You and Your Boundaries
23
Why Boundaries in Dating?
25
Require and Embody Truth
35
Take God on a Date
49
Dating Wont Cure a Lonely Heart
71
Dont Repeat the Past
77
Dont Fall in Love with Someone You Wouldnt Be Friends With
107
Dont Ruin a Friendship Out of Loneliness
121
Beware When Opposites Attract
133
Solving Dating Problems When Youre Part of the Problem
149
Adapt Now Pay Later
151
Too Much Too Fast
159
Dont Get Kidnapped
173
Kiss False Hope Goodbye
187

Whom Should I Date?
89
What You Can Live With and What You Cant Live With
91
Boundaries on Blame
203
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Cofounder of Cloud/Townsend Communications, Henry Cloud is a popular speaker and licensed psychologist. Cloud graduated with a doctorate in clinical psychology from Rosemead Graduate School of Psychology and maintains a private practice in Newport Beach, California. Also a cohost of the nationally broadcast "Minirth Meier New Life Clinic," Cloud has written numerous books with his business partner John Townsend, including Safe People, Twelve Christian Beliefs That Can Drive You Crazy, The Mom Factor, and the Gold Medallion award-winning Boundaries. On his own, Cloud, who specializes in individual adult psychotherapy, has written the books Changes That Heal: How to Understand Your Past to Ensure a Healthier Future and Secrets of Your Family Tree. Dr. John Townsend is a nationally known leadership consultant, psychologist, and author, selling over 10 million books, including the New York Times bestselling Boundaries series. John founded the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling and the Townsend Leadership Program. Dr. Townsend travels extensively for corporate consulting, speaking events, and to help develop leaders, their teams, and their families. John and his family live in Southern California and Texas. Visit DrTownsend.com.