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SPECTATOR

IN MINIATURE.

JEALOUSY.

in amore hæc omnia insunt vitia: injuriæ,
Suspuciones, inimicitiæ, inducia,
Bellum
pax rursum.

TER.
All these inconveniencies are incident to love ; re-

proaches, jealousies, quarrels, recoucilements, war,

and then peace. JEALOUSY is that pain which a man fecls from the

apprehension that he is not equally beloved by the person whom he entirely loves. Now because our in. ward passions and inclinations can never make them. selves visible, it is impossible for a jealous man to be thoroughly cured of his suspicions. His thoughts hang at vest in a state of doubtfulness and uncertainty; and are never capable of receiving any satisfaction on the advantageous side; so that his ingniries are most successful when they discover nothing. His pleasure rises from his disappointments, and his life is spent > pursuit of a secret that destroys his happiness if he .ance to find it.

An ardent love is always a strong ingredient in this. passion; for the same affection which stirs up the jea. pus mau's desires, and gives the party beloved so VOL. II.

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beautifal a figure in his imagination, makes him believe she kindles the same passion in others, and appears as amiable to all beholders. And as jealousy thus arises from an extraordinary love, it is of so delicate a nature that it scorns to take up with any thing less than an equal return of love. Not the warmest expressions of affection, the softest and most tender hypocrisy, are able to give any satisfaction, where we are not persuaded that the affection is real, and the sa. tisfaction mutual. For the jealous man wishes himself a kind of deity to the person he loves: he would be the only pleasure of her senses, the employment of her thoughts; and is angry at every thing she admires, or takes delight in, besides himself.

Phædria's request to his mistress upon his leaving her for three days, is inimitably beautiful and natural.

Cum milite isto præsens, absens ut sies :
Dies noctesque me ames : me desideres :
Me somnies : me expectes : de me cogites :
Me speres: me te oblectes: mecum tota sis:
Meus fac sis postremo animus, quando ego sum
tuus.

TER " When you are in company with that soldier, be.

have as if you were absent: but continue to love me by day and by night: want me; dream of me; expect me; think of me; wish for me; de. light in me; be wholly with me: in short, be my very soul, as I am yours."

The jealous man's disease is of so malignant a na. ture, that it converts all he takes into its own nourishment. A cool bebaviour sets him on the rack, and is interpreted as an instance of aversion or indifference; a fond one raises his suspicions, and looks too much like dissimulation and artifice. If the person he loves be cheerful, ber thoughts must be employed on an. other; and if sad, she is certainly thinking on himself. In short, there is no word or gesture so insigni. ficant, but it gives him new hints, feeds his suspicions, and furnishes him with fresh matters of discovery : So that if we consider the effects of this passion, one would rather think it proceeded from an inveterate hatred, than an excessive love; for certainly none can meet with more disquietude and uneasiness than a suspected wife, if we except the jealous husband.

But the great unhappiness of this passion is, that it naturally tends to alienate the affection which it is so solicitous to engross; and that for these two reasons, because it lays too great a constraint on the words and actions of the suspected person, and at the same time shows you have no honourable opivion of her; both of which are strong motives to aversion.

Nor is this the worst effect of jealousy; for it often draws after it a more fatal train of consequences, and makes the person you suspect guilty of the very crimes you are so much afraid of. It is very natural for such who are treated ill and upbraided falsely, to find ont an intimate friend that will hear their complaints, condole their sufferings, and endeavour to sooth and assuage their secret resentments. Besides, jealousy puis a woman often in mind of an ill thing that she would not otherwise perhaps have thought of, and fills her imagination with such an unlucky idea, as in time grows familiar, excites desire, and loses all the shame and horror which might at first attend it. Nor is it a wonder if she who suffers wrongfully in a man's opinion of her, and has therefore nothing to forfeit in his esteem, resolves to give him reason for his suspicions, and to enjoy the pleasure of the crime, since she must undergo the ignominy. Such probably were the con. siderations that directed the wise man in his advice to husbands : “ Be not jealous over the wife of thy bo. som, and teach her not an evil lesson against thyself.” Eccles.

And here, among the other torments which this passion produces, we may usually observe that none are

greater mourners than jealous men, when the person who provoked their jealousy is taken from them. Then it is that their love breaks out furiously, and thruws off all the mixtures of suspicion which choked and smothered it before. The beautiful parts of the character rise nppermost in tbe jealous husband's memory, and upbraid him with the ill usage of so divine a creature as was once in his possession; whilst all the little imperfections that were before so uneasy to him, wear off from his remeinbrance, and show then selves

no more.

We may ste by what has been said, that jealousy takes the deepest root in men of amorous dispositions; and of these we may find three kinds who are most overrun with it.

The first are those who are conscious to themselves of any infirmity, whether it be weakness, old age, deformity, ignorance, or the like. These men are so well acquainted with the unamiable part of themselves, that they have not the confidence to thiuk they are really beloved; and are so distrustful of their own merits, that all fondness towards them puts them out of countenance, and looks like a jest upon their persons. They grow suspicious on their first looking in a glass, and are string with jealousy at the sight of a wrinkle. A handsome fellow immediately alarms them, and every thing that looks young or gay turns their thoughts upon their wives.

A second sort of men, who are most liable to this passion, are those of cunning, wary, and distrustful tempers. It is a fault very justiy found in histories composed by politicians, that they leave nothing to chance or humour, but are still for deriving every action from some plot or contrivance.

For drawing up a perpetual scheme of causes and events, and preserving a constant correspondence between the camp and the council table. And thus it happens in the affairs of love with men of too refined a thought. They put a construction on a look, and find out a design in a

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